It can be hard to keep your cool when your child is throwing a tantrum. It can feel like there is no end in sight, frustrating, and helplessness. Believe it or not, your child having a tantrum is healthy for your child and the relationship between parent and child.
Why are tantrums good for my child?
When your child is throwing the temper tantrum of all tantrums, they are getting their emotions out. Part of developing, emotionally and mentally, is learning how to manage your emotions. Children are simply in this learning process, so go easy on them! They trust you and feel safe in showing their emotions and telling you how they feel.
Releasing their emotions will make them feel better, relieve their stress, clear their head, and more. Many times, children have breakdowns after they are told, “No.” Hearing that they cannot have something or take an action is healthy for you and your child. It shows children that there are limits and that you, as the parent, are standing your ground.
What can I do during and after my child’s tantrum?
During the tantrum, try asking them to explain how they feel and why they are acting in that way. Let them know that it is okay to express their emotions.
Afterward, teach them why you said, “No,” to them. Explain their behavior related boundaries. Let them know that you said “No,” to candy because they did not eat their veggies at dinnertime. Everything is a learning process!